Wednesday, September 19, 2007


Cute Neighbor News. Get it? Har har.

Thanks to all of you who left advice for me on the last post! I don't like being involved in stuff like that, so I will just try to keep out of it as best as possible. Hopefully that will be the end of my involvement.

You have all been waiting patiently for a CN update. I have to admit, I have been stalling out of paranoia. You see, I am worried he will find this blog. Last Saturday, we were out with a group of friends, and the subject of myspace came up. If you are familiar with myspace, you know that you can have a little blog on there. "Do you have a blog?" he asked me.



"No...." I trailed off, quickly changing the subject to something else.

Great. I just lied to him. This is just perfect. First I tell him I have food poisoning when I really didn't, and now this. Ugh. I am getting a pit in my stomach just thinking typing this. I don't like lying and I'm terrible at it, too. So who knows if he even believed me???

But what else was I supposed to say??? "Yes, I do, and I talk about you on it all the time. Feel free to check it out so you can learn about how much of a total freak I am!"

As if this wasn't bad enough, long ago I stupidly set my myspace URL to the same name as my blog pseudonym, Virginia Belle. (And yes, I know you are all going to go and myspace stalk me now. Go ahead. I'll wait. It's private, anyway, so don't get too excited.) Anyway, if you Google my pseudonym, my blog pops right up. Oh boy. I do NOT want him reading this. I learned the hard way last time about telling guys you date about your blog. Never again!!

I would not really be worried about this if it weren't for the fact that he does background checks for a living. So he's paid to be a stalker. He probably has all of the research skills that I have. Is it only a matter of time before he thinks to Google my myspace URL pseudonym? Aaaarrrgh. I feel so stupid right now. Instead of being the hunter, now I am the hunted. Getting a taste of your own medicine is always a bitter pill to swallow.

I have some choices. Deleting my myspace and starting a new one would be waaaayy too obvious. I could make this blog invitation only, which would mean no more new readers. I could delete all of the CN posts. I could edit my blog to make it look like it's not ME, but some other girl who happened to use the same pseudonym. I could make it say that I'm a sales rep who lives in Colorado or something. I could even just end this blog and start a new one. Or, I could just hope for the best and continue about my merry way. What do you think? Am I being paranoid? I need help, guys!

I am trying not to think about it. So let's just move on for now. I know you want some scoop. I will warn you that this will probably be kind of gushy. So suppress your gag reflex for the time being. I will do the same.

First off, every time he and I hang out, we have great conversations and he usually has me in stitches. The guy is hilarious. Example: a text message conversation we had yesterday, after the cable guy came over to his house.

CN: The cable guy thinks you're hot. He saw you walking the dogs.
VB: OMG, don't tell me that!
CN: He was all about me hooking him up. He wanted me to give you his number: xxx-xxx-xxxx
VB: Yesss! Now I can get free cable! Thanks, CN!
CN: Just kidding. Alright, I will pay your cable bill if you don't go out with him.
VB: Ok, FINE! Gah!

And did I mention he's got dimples?? Oh man, am I a sucker for dimples....they are like kryptonite.

He and I met up with MJ and her boyfriend, VW for trivia night recently. We had a good time, although we sucked at trivia! CN wanted to do it again tonight, but I already have plans.

Saturday night, we went bowling with MJ & VW and Mr. & Mrs. Bill. There were a few more people there as well. We all had a really good time, especially MJ, who beat the crap out of us. And since she won't give me a straight answer, I will never know if MJ and VW were working behind the scenes to encourage CN to make out with me or not. As if I am not shy and nervous enough, I have to deal with meddling friends. Yeesh. After bowling, we all wanted to go to IHOP, but it was packed, so the group split up. CN and I decided to go to a Waffle House in our neighborhood instead.

When our waffles came out, the waitress neglected to give us any syrup. There was some syrup on a shelf nearby, but I didn't want to touch them because the handles were all sticky and goopy. I was willing to wait for the waitress to give us some syrup that wasn't sticky. I explained this to CN, and he stood up, grabbed one of the sticky syrups and said, "Tell me when." -- and then he syruped my waffle for me! Aw. Bonus points for him. I thought that was so sweet. Not too many guys are willing to syrup your waffles for you, you know?

As he walked me to my door, he said that he wants to take me out alone sometime, because we have been doing nothing but group dates. Ca-ching! More points. He totally read my mind. Unfortunately, there was still no smooching going on by this point. I guess I just wasn't feeling it. I'm not keen on kissing in public or in front of my friends. And I hate having a first kiss on my doorstep. It makes me feel like I'm on stage. I don't like it. So although I could tell he wanted to, I bolted inside at the end of the night.

MJ, of course, wanted juicy smooching details the next morning, but I disappointed her yet again. By this point, MJ was totally annoyed with the both of us, and nagging me incessantly to get on with it. "I'll do it! Lay off, already!! He's shy and it makes me feel shy in response!" I said defensively.

The next day, I was puttering around my house when he asked me if I wanted to go to Steak n Shake for dinner. Mmmmm!!! Burgers and milkshakes!!! Twist my arm!! Unfortunately, when we got there, we learned that tragically, Steak n Shake has closed down. After briefly grieving for the loss, we went to another burger place, where we had more fantastic conversation. Actually, I kinda hogged it, and he let me. More bonus points for him...

When we got home, it was still early, so he invited me over to watch a movie. We settled on Pan's Labyrinth, which ended up being AWESOME. It is one of the best movies I've seen in years. And he got more bonus points for putting up with one of the most annoying things about me: I am one of those people who talks throughout movies. I know, I know. It's so irritating. But I yell at the characters and critique the movie the whole way through. Aside from some much deserved teasing, he let me get away with it. Wow. He got a lot of points for that one.

His house was totally freeeeeeeezzzzing, and so he tucked a blanket around me and turned the air down. Then he said I could snuggle up to him to stay warm, which I did. Aw. He smelled good. Yay!

As he walked me back to my front door, he said he has not been coming over, because he doesn't want to be "that guy". I told him that was good, and that I was doing the same thing, because I didn't want to be "that girl".

"Oh, no, you can totally be that girl," he replied. Aw.

Ugh, this post is making me barf a little. Sorry. I'm trying not to gush. I'll stop, because I'm annoying myself at this point.

But he is a good kisser. :)


Sam said...

I just squealed. Out loud. Gawd I'm lame. But YAY for the smoochies!!

Phantom Hater said...

I lost my breakfast during the paragraph about the syrup.

When Darkness Falls... said...

Aww! Yay! So glad everything is going so good for the 2 of you! The begining is always so much fun!

Wow! So he is a stalker by profession? :) I know what you mean about the whole blog thing. I don't tell hardly anyone about my blog. It isn't for my everyday circle of friends and family. It's funny how private thoughts and feelings come out in your blog. Ya know? Like things you would never say out loud to alot of people? Anyway, good luck on that! If you used the same name for your blog and your myspace he has probably already read this! Maybe that is what has given him the courage to kick things up a notch! ;)

Fluffycat said...

VB & CN sitting in a tree, K I S S I N G!

That sounds very cute.

I dunno about the blog thing... I guess he could find it. I had someone that I went out with find my blog and it was kind of disheartening, but then he apologized for being such a snoop.

Anonymous said...

Way to go VB!!!! I am so happy for you. Two of the hottest women in Columbia (VB & MJ) are now off the market. Every guy in town is saddened by this news.

Dixie said...


mysterygirl! said...

Yay! This is so cute. I'm very happy for you.

I wish I had more helpful comments about the whole blog thing, because I don't think you have anything to be embarrassed about, but I also think it would be weird and potentially really awkward if he found it (you portray him nicely, but there's all the mentions of HN, and the post where you put him in the friend zone... I don't know). Of course I hope you keep writing here, but I can't decide what's in your best interest (and wouldn't he have already found it when you gave him your myspace if he were looking for it?).

lenfercestlesautres said...


I don't know what to tell you about the blog though. You can try to take it off Google (there's some advice in blogger help) but it will still be in google for like, ages. or you take it off google and change the url AND your handle. Which totally sucks too but it would possibly help.

(He could still find it then if he's a good stalker and has already found this one. But that's a bit unrealistic)

I am totally paranoid about Boyfriend reading my blog too. And it would be so easy for him to find it, argh! It's annoying that you always realize so late that blogs should be kept away from most of the people you know...

kimmykins13 said...

VB's got a Boyfriend - VB's got a boyfriend

Woo Hoo! (I told you he liked you)

Matilda Jane said...

That's it... I'm throwing a parade!!!
... and maybe some ice cream in the near future ;-)

Becky said...

YAY i'm so excited for you.

my advice....keep the blog, keep myspace, EDIT the posts you mention him in...

Coco said...

Aw, so sweet.
I don't know-my gut tells me a guy wouldn't go to the trouble to try and sort that out . . .but, I am terribly naive, so don't listen to me. :)

KingBob said...

I think you have to assume that he's "researched" information about you off the internet. Most guys would try to hunt for tidbits about a girl they are interested in; and this guy's a professional and has access to all kinds of databases.

What to do about it....I don't know either. Probably just best to not date him and find someone new.

The Dummy said...

You did it! Great ending for your story. I'm not gonna say anymore because it's going so well!

Oh, and as for him being a professional stalker: I think he's going to find you eventually. Your best defense is to keep your blog private and go the invitation-only route for as long as you're seeing him. Having personally gone through the situation you described, where the person I date knows of my blog, I have to say, I wish they had never known about it. It will make you stop writing and will pretty much kill the blog when it comes to talking about personal thoughts about that person. And that's very hard to give up. We'll still be reading you no matter what you do!

and P.S. Thanks for voting!! You were the magic number to get the votes up to 40. :) I also have a press release coming out tomorrow for the site. You should be able to find it on Google News tomorrow if you happen to check.

lenfercestlesautres said...

I have to say, I wish they had never known about it. It will make you stop writing and will pretty much kill the blog when it comes to talking about personal thoughts about that person.


Kraig said...

If you make it invitation only, you'll hide the stuff from him, but that doesn't mean he wont find it anyways. You said you don't have a blog, but if he figures out you do...

It is true if he knows about it and reads it you wont keep posting. You'll censor everything, or think twice about what you say.

I would change the name of your myspace or blog, but keep the content up. That way you don't have to censor yourself, you can keep gaining new readers, and not have him find it.

Oh, and BTW. Congrats. glad to hear he's a good kisser and smells good. 2 things that go a LONG ways towards keeping someone special around :)

Phantom Hater said...

Well, I already told you my thoughts about this. We're a nation of voyeurs--of course a guy would snoop or read a blog if he found it.

I'll tell ya what--seeing this post following up the one about lying is interesting. If CN finds the blog, I see three possible results:

1) You lose a little "hand". He will know much more about you than you do him, and let's face it, a blog details a lot of insecurities and messy bits of a person's life. Upper "Hand" is critical in a relationship. He will be able to say, "Well, apparently you liked the whipped cream thing on May 16, 2004!"

2) Since everyone is at heart a voyeur, he will read it and not tell you, but you will have a sneaking suspicion he knows some things. Hilarious awkwardness will ensue as it seems like he is reading your mind at times.

3) He will be pissed off at you for writing personal stuff about him without telling you. I don't see this one happening, since it's so early on and the stuff about CN is pretty tame.

My recommendation is to edit it a little and tell him about it. You're too guilty of a person to be able to carry on subterfuge. Start off with honesty--it would be a refreshing change.

Meghan (The Declaration of MY Independence) said...

I dont know, I wouldnt tell him about the blog. However, I DO agree with The Hater saying that honesty is the best policy, but I view a blog as a private diary. I regret telling all of my friends about mine. Because, BELIEVE me, there would be ALOT of juicier things in there, and thats the reason I havent written in awhile. You have the power of your blog being semi anonomous. The only friends of yours that read it are KT and MJ, right? Lets keep it that way.

As far as him searching for you on the internet, I'm going with coco's view on it. I dont think he would do it. Maybe its just me, but I dont even NOTICE someone's myspace url. I couldnt even tell you what my best friend's is! But I may be a little nieve just b/c I know that my boyfriend is super unobservant! haha! Alex even knows I have a blog and he doesnt go and read it, but thats just him.

But congrats on the smooches. I was looking at your myspace and I knew something was up.....

GrewUpRural said...

Yeah for VB. He seems like a really sweet guy.

I say keep the blog but make it invitation only. Also, I would change your myspace page URL.

Snooch said...

As for me, I wouldn't set the blog to private. If he already knows about it and later finds out that you set it to private, he'll assume you have things to hide. At least that would be my reaction, but maybe I'm a bit too paranoid.
On the other hand I also think that later it may effect your writing, which would be a pity for most of us readers, yours is one of the most enjoyable blogs out there. I'd say: change the myspace url, or edit some previous messages here (or both).

Btw, I'm happy for you that things are going this well with him, he seems to be a nice guy, you lucky one! ;))

Phantom Hater said...

~meghan - How is a public blog like a private diary? That's the silliest thing I've read in a while. A private diary is a journal you keep in a locked cabinet or something. A blog is, by nature, an exhibit of exhibitionism.

Meghan (The Declaration of MY Independence) said...

Hater - I understand what your saying, but I know that there are alot of people out there that have a blog so they can tell people their stories, but keep it anonomous. Do you understand what I mean now? I didn't mean that it was a place most private thoughts. Hope that clarified it for ya!

* meish * said...

happy smooching :)

teahouse said...

OMG..that's awesome!!!

Sorry I'm chiming in late..3 late nights at work...

I think my head just exploded from the cuteness!! Hooray for the Cute Neighbor!!

wfboland77 said...

Steak and Shake closed? That really sucks.

I think it's hilarious how you talk about the cable guy getting hooked up. HA. Tell him he can get hooked up between 8-12 or 1-5.