tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post313389541908450789..comments2023-10-24T03:51:26.482-04:00Comments on Virginia Belle: Familiarity Breeds Contempt, Part 2Virginia Bellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09139549722127680662noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-16986026461031881312008-12-05T17:42:00.000-05:002008-12-05T17:42:00.000-05:00I'm a little late but this girl needs her parents....I'm a little late but this girl needs her parents. She needs drugs and therapy and help.<BR/><BR/><BR/>She does sound bipolar although since she's playing with drugs/alcohol/over the counter its hard to say. Having bipolar is a hard diagnosis to accept but it's frightening to hear her say "the doctor said I'm bipolar, I'm not going back". What? So if you were diabetic, you just wouldn't go back?The Popcorn Bowlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12694081171555690316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-90524003969939038612008-12-05T10:00:00.000-05:002008-12-05T10:00:00.000-05:00It's tricky. Telling them will usually put them o...It's tricky. Telling them will usually put them on the defensive, so you have to stay patient and not let their anger rub off on you. Suggest that it couldn't hurt to at least try the medication that was recommended (these days it'll probably be Cybalta or Effexor) for a week or two and see how they feel. The booze will definitely have to stop, though, which is usually the hardest thing to talk them into.<BR/><BR/>As for the insomnia, that might be caused by an evening Adderoll. It's like drinking a case of Red Bull. She could change that dose to mornings only.Stuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17806212590717745000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-2878922966577814522008-12-04T14:56:00.000-05:002008-12-04T14:56:00.000-05:00meghan -- if anything, this whole experience has m...meghan -- if anything, this whole experience has made me more determined to manage my money better so that i NEVER have to have a roommate again!<BR/><BR/>kimmy -- i did offer to buy the table and chairs from her. but they belonged to her sister, who painted them right before she died. so they are pretty sentimental for E. i totally understand why she won't sell them. and part of me feels like i should stay in touch w/her to help her and encourage her to get better, but part of me is saying, "she's a big girl. only she can change her life." -- it's hard to know what to do, really. i feel guilty for being glad she's gone.<BR/><BR/>stuck -- thank you for telling me all of this. i will be the first to admit that i'm a little naive when it comes to mental disease. i don't really understand it and i REALLY have no idea how to deal with it. it hadn't occurred to me that that she can't think logically. what you said makes sense, though. thanks for educating me about this. you're right -- it's not her fault. now, if only i knew what to actually DO about it -- keep encouraging her to get help and remaining her friend? or let her run her own life and stay out of it?Virginia Bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09139549722127680662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-35758070595830046402008-12-04T12:18:00.000-05:002008-12-04T12:18:00.000-05:00Bah... I hit post too fast.I did want to point out...Bah... I hit post too fast.<BR/><BR/>I did want to point out one thing, in defense of bi-polar folks. While it may make perfect sense to a sane person what the BPD person should do, it doesn't work like that in a BPD brain. Logic does not have a place there. It's a land ruled by emotions. It's okay to be annoyed with her, even mad at her, but it's not entirely her fault. (Well it IS her fault for not getting on the RIGHT medication... but it's not her fault that she's got BPD.)Stuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17806212590717745000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-19203959701665823822008-12-04T12:13:00.000-05:002008-12-04T12:13:00.000-05:00Is it a nice computer monitor? :)Is it a nice computer monitor? :)Stuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17806212590717745000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-81863703010669276772008-12-03T21:52:00.000-05:002008-12-03T21:52:00.000-05:00Ask her if you could buy the table and chairs from...Ask her if you could buy the table and chairs from her if you love the set that much. As money hungry as she sounds she might let it go at a reasonable price ESPECIALLY as much as you have done FOR HER!!! Also, if she is as manic as she sounds she will probably just use the money to go out and buy herself another bag or and outfit-seriously(?!!). I do feel sorry for her too though -- she needs someone to help her control all of those hella meds she's taking because it doesn't sound like she can do it herself. Good advice you gave her in that maybe she should move back to MN. Whether she does it or not isn't your problem anymore. She's a big girl, She will work it out if she wants to be healthy, otherwise she will just continue to stagnate like you said. Deep down she probably realizes that she is out of control.kimmykins13https://www.blogger.com/profile/03975995189429999303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-23977636955838336112008-12-03T18:33:00.000-05:002008-12-03T18:33:00.000-05:00Holy cats! I had no idea this was going on with h...Holy cats! I had no idea this was going on with her. I am SO SORRY you had to go through this. I know what its like to not get along with someone that you live with.<BR/><BR/>Well thank goodness she is gone. And I wouldnt even worry about the table. If she calls you to come and drop it off again, tell her no.<BR/><BR/>What a PITA.Meghan (The Declaration of MY Independence)https://www.blogger.com/profile/08437426078664351801noreply@blogger.com