tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post8494750676721861249..comments2023-10-24T03:51:26.482-04:00Comments on Virginia Belle: Forks in the RoadVirginia Bellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09139549722127680662noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-19556581203118499322011-02-05T12:43:44.058-05:002011-02-05T12:43:44.058-05:00Christina -- Yes, not only is Savannah a dead zone...Christina -- Yes, not only is Savannah a dead zone as far as dating goes, I am very homesick. I would really like to be closer to my family, plus, I adore Richmond and have always wanted to live there. Yes, I took my cooking blog down -- too laborious to type recipes! I'll see if I can email you a super easy recipe.<br /><br />Don -- you bring up an EXCELLENT point!!! I think that old man may be on to something.....<br /><br />Smug -- yes, yes! We will definitely have to meet up! That would be the coolest. <br /><br />Coco -- Thank you for helping me feel more normal! I think that people, especially girls, who grow up in relatively strict religious homes have a tendency to turn into total hornballs when they grow up. I call it "Preacher's Daughter Syndrome". When you make something such a forbidden fruit, that's what happens! <br /><br />Teahouse -- you're absolutely right!! life is too short for all that stuff. you gotta find what's right for you. I'll be honest -- I don't know if I can do what my friends did, but they have definitely opened my eyes to the idea of possibly waiting much longer than I usually do. <br /><br />Len -- I'm sorry, I had a response to your comment, but was distracted by the word "boinking". Mmmmmm.....boinking.....<br /><br />Fluffycat -- thank you for your comment. It seems we are all in agreement -- gotta do what is best for yourself. :)Virginia Bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09139549722127680662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-74333356427112707522011-02-02T22:25:12.416-05:002011-02-02T22:25:12.416-05:00I agree with other commenters, hard to imagine not...I agree with other commenters, hard to imagine not having sex before marriage. I think that kind of thing made sense before there were birth control options and people got married very young. But I also think that people can make their own choices. You have to do what works for you, and that might not be what works for other people you know.Fluffycathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05428451230435663963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-5652100059148472012011-01-28T10:55:51.780-05:002011-01-28T10:55:51.780-05:00I totally agree with Smug. And no, 'boinking&#...I totally agree with Smug. And no, 'boinking' (LOL I love that word!) on the first date does not change anything.<br /><br />Maybe it's also an American thing - people in the US marry really quickly after meeting each other (with this I mean a couple of years max), even when they are pretty young, so of course they don't have the time to get to know each other that well, and it's true that normally in the first months, there is a lot of 'boinking' going on and it's just about the main thing you do together!Lenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17853080792066263819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-26188358220526794102011-01-26T00:14:50.972-05:002011-01-26T00:14:50.972-05:00Hey, VB! It's good that you've found a gr...Hey, VB! It's good that you've found a group of ladies to hang out and talk religion with.<br /><br />I too was raised very religious, and told from a young age that sex before marriage was wrong, wrong, wrong. And like the others who have commented before me, I think it really boils down to a personal choice. No matter what you decide, don't feel guilty! Life is too short for guilt. Or bad sex. Or regrets.teahousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06222848511993932548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-82805610023147994352011-01-25T21:40:23.964-05:002011-01-25T21:40:23.964-05:00Congrats on all the opportunities-that is amazing....Congrats on all the opportunities-that is amazing. If nothing else, it always feels nice to be noted...to have people "want you" even if you end up not taking the job or whatever.<br /><br />I totally know what you're talking about. I was raised in quite a religious environment, christian school, church, conservative family, christian college...and I held onto my V-card until I was 30. Now, I can't really say this was out of strong religious convictions...But at any rate, one day I was just tired of it hanging over my head and got it over with. And discovered I really, Really, REALLY like sex...<br /><br />I get it. I get what people are talking about...but I don't think there's any magic formula. What works for one person isn't necessarily going to work for another. I just think we all have to think things through and decide what we feel alright about.<br /><br />I think, however, it is a BIG risk to not have any sort of physicality with someone until your wedding night. I have friends who have given me first hand accounts of horror stories about wedding nights and even totally sex-less marriages that they never would have gotten into if they had at least indulged in some somethin-somethin prior to tying the knot.<br /><br />Just know you're not alone. :) I'm a hornball too.Cocohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18137056654678597739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-26518106746146770652011-01-25T21:40:22.927-05:002011-01-25T21:40:22.927-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Cocohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18137056654678597739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-50823160378603731462011-01-20T14:11:20.027-05:002011-01-20T14:11:20.027-05:00If you move back to VA, we will totally have to me...If you move back to VA, we will totally have to meet up - I'm in Roanoke and have family in Richmond!<br /><br />I slept with my husband on the first date - big no no I know, but in all fairness, I was just planning on using him for sex and then it turned serious later.<br /><br />I think that sex a huge part of a marriage and if its not good, it can be a huge let down and cause other problems in the marriage. Also, if you put it off until that wedding night, that is a whole lot of pressure to put on a guy to perform for you!<br /><br />Besides, would you buy a car without taking a test drive first? :)Smughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09262748591981536337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-44558930474109525792011-01-20T14:04:34.725-05:002011-01-20T14:04:34.725-05:00Good luck with the job!
If I'd waited to have...Good luck with the job!<br /><br />If I'd waited to have sex when I got married, I'd never have had any sex. Or I'd have had sex and gotten divorced..<br /><br />I recently saw some old famous person in an interview, I can't remember who it was, some old guy. One thing he regretted in his life was turning down sex. He said something like, never turn down a chance to have sex.. I think his point was that when you get old you might not get another chance.<br /><br />So maybe you should enjoy sex while you can and be religious about something else.. :)donhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13943762436600028853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18879154.post-51291121482661214172011-01-19T14:29:19.287-05:002011-01-19T14:29:19.287-05:00good luck on the job promotion/search, both in sav...good luck on the job promotion/search, both in savannah and in virginia! how exciting to move to a new city and one as great as richmond! are you moving back to be closer to your family?<br /><br />as far as the religion topic. that is right up there with politics, its an 'iffy' subject where everyone has their own opinion and their opinion is the right one. just remember that your relationship with God is between only you and Him. no one but God can judge you. <br /><br />oh, and did you delete your cooking blog. i was going to check that out for some app recs. for superbowl sunday. :PChristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08368645546731217608noreply@blogger.com